Looking at the Neurobiological & Emotional aspects of a Narcissistic family we can see how it continues through the generations allowing us to identify the impact on us personally and our next steps to take for generational change.
Intergenerational Narcissism Recovery
Have you experienced …
- Those around you Devalue you, have you doubting your own character, emotions and thoughts. You’ve experience being put down and question your own sanity, called a drama queen, didn’t have an emotional education growing up nor have your emotions validated in your family of origin. You can feel emotionally numb, have lacked deep emotional connections in adulthood and wonder why this is, dissociation can happen unexpectedly. Your heart longs for healthy connections and real answers to your internal feeling of there being a hole inside of you can’t fill and it doesn’t stop aching.
- You can look back and see your Family of Origin provided no healthy context for relationships and into adulthood you’ve chosen unsafe people to be in relationships with no matter how hard you tried to make sure this didn’t happen. Adult relationships have lacked emotional depth even when you’ve tried to explain what you need. Over time you’ve stopped trying to explain what is happening for you internally as words didn’t cover the internal chaos. You’ve lost friends and relationships, isolated because it felt the safest place and convinced yourself this is a normal way for you to live your life.
- The long term effects on our body and brain from emotional abuse can include, but are not limited to, the following – depression, anxiety, insomnia, chronic pain, loneliness, our brain develops differently causing cognitive distortions, lack of social skills, lack of self worth/self value, migraines, indigestion, stomach ulcers and chronic disease) disorders, poor health due to risky behaviours, suicidal ideation, increased chances of a toxic relationship thereby a decrease in health due to an overload of stress. For me I also developed Epilepsy at age 15 with no family history.
“The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother’s love or her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions.”Alice Miller
My Story re Intergenerational Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Can I just begin by saying how grateful I am to all the modern technology that allows us to share our stories and to learn about Narcissism? I spent many years trying to scratch an itch that I had no language for and trying to work out if I was going crazy or not. The one thing about generational narcissism that undermines us is everyone in the family points the finger at us as having the problem because we dare to rock the boat and question other family members behaviour. In my family it was a no go zone to dare to question not only behaviours but also what others had said. Calling out a family members bad behaviour was considered to be a no go zone. And when I did speak up the response was always the same “what is your problem?” Perhaps my problem was that I don’t like being treated disrespectfully and I don’t like others being treated with disrespect?
Gosh, I hate what goes on behind closed doors in a narcissistic household too because we’re under threat that we will lose everything if we dare to speak up about the dysfunction. During my second marriage I even had a Pastor ring me as then husband had gone to him about decisions I had made. Naturally with half the story being told. However, by that stage I was fully aware what was happening and I was able to stand up for myself. All of us who’ve travelled the pathway of being raised in a generationally narcissistic family invariably marry or partner with narcissists. Both the narcissist and us have a deep wound that needs healing. The difference between us and the narcissist is we are prepared to do the work to heal, to recover from what was handed down to us. The narcissist won’t do their work. My first marriage everyone believed he was a fantastic human being, and to other people he definitely was, but behind closed doors we dealt with outbursts of anger, financial debt, stubbornness beyond the logical and everyone believing I had the problem. My problem was I believed everything needed to be open and honest, and not living to impress others.
So I wrote this course for those of willing to do the work to break the cycle, to recognise our wounds, and to stop handing them down to the next generation. For the bad, dysfunctional behaviours to be on the table and for honesty in our family’s, behind closed doors. This is how I raised my children and to this day, even as adults, they come and tell me the truth, and we work through the unhealthy decisions, take responsibility for ourselves and change where we are headed. It’s messy work, it’s vulnerable work, it’s owning our own beautiful mess and knowing we can do so in safety. It allows us to let go of perfection, of having to hide and pretend bad behaviours and bad decisions don’t happen, and above all it’s a truly loving and authentic way to live life. We want to do life with authentic people because they’re the ones who’ll travel through life’s challenges with us and not run in the other direction. Recovery is not only possible, it’s highly recommended. The future generations will thank you.
“As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”Bessel Van Der Kolk
What You’ll Learn
This Course will Feature Lessons On
- Module One: Intergenerational Narcissism
- Module Two: Intergenerational Narcissism & Motherhood
- Module Three: Healing the Narcissistic Mother Wound
- Module Four: Healing Intergenerational Narcissism within our Relationships
- Module 5: Reclaiming My Identity
- Digital Manuals
Intergenerational Narcissism Recovery
Online Course Contents for recovery from Intergenerational Narcissism
- Course contains 5 Video Tutorials and 5 Digital Manuals for charting your Emotional Abuse Recovery
- Watch 1 video per week and complete the Digital Manual as you integrate the knowledge and personal awareness into your daily life to help you break free from the repetitive cycles
- Can be used with or without a Mental Health professional. All instructions are contained in the Digital Manual
The course starts now and is available whenever you are ready, always. The benefit of being online is you pace yourself, it literally fits into your daily life.
How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like – across any and all devices you own. Memberships will have access as long as the membership is current.
Yes. Taking in your notes and observations to your Mental Health Care professional will help you progress through therapy.