Our core path through all of this is the opposite of what we have known all our life. Throughout our life there has been a lack of experiencing giving and receiving love. Complex Trauma begins to heal effectively as we learn to love our choices, our life, those around us etc irrespective of how it compares to our life goals and dreams. Bring authentic love back into your heart for yourself, fill your bucket of love up, and give from there. Our internal system will thank us for bringing love back into ourselves. The love drives out fear and builds courage for the road ahead. Choose love despite our past. Love wins.
The fear, the sense of terror, the anxiety riddling my body just never made sense as an adult.
I’d ask myself repeatedly why couldn’t I manage “normal” adult responsibilities? Why couldn’t I get into a routine and keep it? Why did other people scare the living daylights out of me on one hand but on the other hand we could be instant friends? Quite frankly none of it made any logical sense at all.
One of the most triggering questions in the world is the innocently well intentioned “Why don’t you just…?” question-suggestion-judgment. It feels like an attack when it is actually meant as a suggestion. Inevitably, it’s asked by someone who does not understand the struggle I am feeling, the tempest inside, or the helplessness that is just bubbling under the surface.
We have a wonderful, global Complex Ptsd Peer Support group, run by a fully trained and in training Team of Admins, Moderators and Assistants. The group is fully equipped with close to 40 Units – now called Guides – of information for Effective Complex Ptsd Recovery. One of the questions we get asked is what is a Trigger Warning and why do we need it? One of our Team, Lauren, answers the questions for us.
It’s crucial for our recovery we are able to choose a professional we can work with and also understands how to work with us to achieve our personal goals. In fact it’s vital because if you’re like me you don’t want to waste time and money on what doesn’t work.
There is no one size fits all Roadmap through Complex Ptd into recovery. Everything that impacts us does so as a unique individual. The good news is there are ways we can know what our one next step to take on our recovery journey will be, and it’s also possible to have the resources we need at our fingertips.
In our Facebook Peer Support Group, I see a lot of us asking “Should I…?” questions of each other. This is actually one of the reasons why being in a peer group is so great. We are talking with people who ‘get’ what we are going through and collectively have tried a lot of different things.