My Complex Trauma Story I know the exhausted, confused & alone feelings… Right in the middle of the busyness of life, surrounded by good friends, family and work colleagues, the feelings of exhaustion, confusion and loneliness persisted. It just didn’t make sense to me. I had everything anyone could ever want, yet life wasn’t working …
With the new skills we’ve learned in our course and certification, how do we as new coaches set boundaries for ourselves in stepping in with “coach skills” for our personal relationships?
“The things narcissistic type people do creates ill health in us because it keeps us disconnected from our inner strength, our internal power. In fact, they want that strength and power for themselves. It’s what first attracted them to us.”
This crippling fear I often held silently within me until I could outsmart it enough to take the next action I wanted or needed to do.
Did you know there are different levels to being validated? Me either! I went researching and discovered how we can work it in with our different layers of healthy friendships and trust too!
Raw & Real: I can’t begin to count how many times I’ve had no idea which way to turn to take my one next step throughout my recovery journey. Then there’s the other side of the coin where I’m moving forward in recovery and BAM! CRASH! I unknowingly spiral downwards and can’t get out of bed for some unknown reason. Frustrating much? Yes!
What have I learned in taking action to release myself and others from the shame and guilt of my past?
I want to encourage you to never give up! Being the first generation consciously breaking the generational chains it’s hard work, and worth it.
Our core path through all of this is the opposite of what we have known all our life. Throughout our life there has been a lack of experiencing giving and receiving love. Complex Trauma begins to heal effectively as we learn to love our choices, our life, those around us etc irrespective of how it compares to our life goals and dreams. Bring authentic love back into your heart for yourself, fill your bucket of love up, and give from there. Our internal system will thank us for bringing love back into ourselves. The love drives out fear and builds courage for the road ahead. Choose love despite our past. Love wins.
The fear, the sense of terror, the anxiety riddling my body just never made sense as an adult.
I’d ask myself repeatedly why couldn’t I manage “normal” adult responsibilities? Why couldn’t I get into a routine and keep it? Why did other people scare the living daylights out of me on one hand but on the other hand we could be instant friends? Quite frankly none of it made any logical sense at all.
