4 Ways to Navigate Holiday Season
I recently had a conversation with a friend regarding this time of the year and what came out of it, was a beautiful way to see ourselves through them, even amidst our suffering.
THE HOLIDAYS CAN ALSO BE A TIME OF GRIEF, FAMILY TENSIONS, LONELINESS, AND FACING OUR OWN IMPERFECTIONS.
For me, the holidays are particularly difficult because my brother passed away this time of year. Since this is traditionally a time of remembrance, I find it doubly hard to bring my heart into the present. Even though I’m usually surrounded by people, I feel lonely. Especially in this year of that dreaded word: COVID, where many of us have had to isolate, and what’s Worse: I can feel like it’s not OK to have these feelings
I KNOW I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE.
WHICH IS WHY I WANT TO OFFER THESE FOUR SUGGESTIONS TO THOSE WHO NEED THEM:
1. TURN OFF THE CHRISTMAS CAROLS IF YOU’RE NOT IN THE MOOD, AND DON’T GO TO THAT PARTY IF YOU DON’T WANT TO.
2. IF YOU’RE GRIEVING, UNDERSTAND THAT THE PAIN ASSOCIATED WITH IT IS PERFECTLY NATURAL.
3. IF THE SEASON IS MAKING YOU FEEL LONELY, GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO REACH OUT TO SOMEONE. REACH OUT HERE IN GROUP WHERE YOU WILL BE MET WITH LOVE AND SUPPORT. YES, WE ARE A RECOVERY GROUP, BUT MIXED IN THERE, IS ALWAYS SUPPORT.
4. IF THERE ISN’T A SPECIFIC PERSON YOU WANT TO REACH OUT TO, DON’T BE AFRAID TO CHOOSE TO BE ALONE WITH INTENTION.
NONE OF THESE ACTIVITIES WILL MAKE YOUR PAIN GO AWAY, BUT THEY WILL ENSURE YOU HAVE THE SPACE YOU NEED TO GRIEVE SAFELY AND IN A SPIRIT OF LOVE.
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